Sometimes you've gotta pop out & purge everything from your life.
Shedding weight so you can fly free.
‘Ello Sadgurls,
I’ve been in a space lately where I’ve been taking time to reflect and remove. It’s a longer process than I thought it would be. But each day, I think, pray, and ask myself: Do I want this in my future? How has this served me in the past?
And I’m finding myself shedding layers and layers that I didn’t even know were weighing me down.
Pay attention to how things and people make you feel. If your heart drops at the thought of being somewhere or doing something, just stop doing it. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself every time you talk, just stop speaking with them—if you can, of course. There are situations and scenarios where you’re a bit stuck…but you can always modify.
Personally, I’ve been abandoning my desire to be “liked,” and I’ve been purging my life with reckless abandon.
Blocking numbers, blocking emails, removing people from my social media feed. It feels strange at first because I’ve been moulded to be polite at the expense of myself. Always apologizing for my tone. Always wondering if I’ve done something off-script. Never knowing how to stand up for myself, which means I end up doing it “wrong” when I eventually do. But I’m realizing, after the initial twinge of awkwardness, once the dust settles, I’m fine.
Once you step away, you realize how often you find yourself surrounded by people who kind of don’t like you 😆. Those who take advantage of your trust and give you bad advice to serve themselves. Friends who never encourage you in order to dim your light. Associates who pick you apart and gossip over your bits. And they’ll stick around, smiling in your face just because. But when you reflect from a distance, it’s easy to see. Like, wow, how did I miss that? You have to be the person to limit access to yourself.
I haven’t cried in weeks, and as a resident sad girl, this is a huge development! But since I’ve started this purge, I feel freer. I’ve had more adventures. I feel better about how I look. I’ve been posting less because I’m not yearning for connection in the same ways that I have in the past. I feel more understood because I’m only giving my time to those who understand me. Who knew it could be so simple?
I’ll be continuing my purge. And maybe I’ll never stop. Maybe I’ll keep taking inventory and shedding when the season calls for it.
What have you been purging lately?
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Proper chuffed for you and I have to say this is one of the dopest things I’ve read in a while:
“I’ve been moulded to be polite at the expense of myself. Always apologizing for my tone. Always wondering if I’ve done something off-script. Never knowing how to stand up for myself, which means I end up doing it “wrong” when I eventually do. But I’m realizing, after the initial twinge of awkwardness, once the dust settles, I’m fine.”
I’ve been going through this a lot this year and along with blocking out the overthinking and having more time to myself, to do things for myself, by myself, ive been more productive, sleeping better thinking clearer. But ad you say the realisation that you will be fine was surprising and uncomfortable at first but soon turned into relief.
Keep going and you know you got people out here backing you.
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I’m so excited for youuuuuuuu 💖💖💖 I remember our talks about all of these feels. I hope you keep shedding and shining fam! Please don’t ever stop 🙏🏾✨