Yikes! I’m so sorry people have been doing that! I wish I had some advice or words of wisdom but internet stranger creepiness knows no bounds or limits.
I don’t think that you’re providing too much detail. It’s vague enough they just saw you being open as an opportunity to be creeps which isn’t at all on you. I would absolutely caution against giving your number out though. You can get an unreal amount of information through your cell phone number. Plus they can straight up harass you until you change it. Get a google voice number and text through that (what’s app shows your number iirc).
I hope these incidents stop happening and until then be well and be safe
Omggg Girl I’m so happy you shared this! I do very intimate writing on the platform as well and I always hesitate to share my blog with certain ppl for this very reason. Don’t let rotten ppl spoil your light! You’re here sharing as you do for a reason. Just use these experiences as a learning one and an opportunity to come back after an attempted emotion setback, love you & your work❤️
Ugh I’m so sorry. I’ve heard of other Substackers dealing with harassment when people openly share (I think Substack interviewed someone like this, I’ll see if I can find it), but off the top of my head the only “solutions” I can think of is making this Substack private and then you’d have to vet the subscribers attempting to come in manually.
You could also create a “section” in settings and remove it from your home page and send it JUST to subscribers but not have it show up on your visible homepage/feed. But again, you’d have to vet.
Hmm... going paid was what I heard from most people was the best option for them. The woman who runs the department of salad on here said “you have to pay if you want to insult me!”
Please don't delete it! :sob: Maybe make it so NO MENZ ALLOWED? Very sorry you have to go through this, though. I think if I did this kind of thing and could swing it, I'd consider having someone moderate the comments so I didn't have to even see any of the crazy stuff since it bothers my RSD so bad and I know that would make me personally feel like I needed to be nice to everyone and then get upset that they end up trying to be controlling. Being a neurokin is soooo hard on top of everything else. <<<sending magical good vibes>>>
Ugh, that's so creepy! I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I love your newsletter and I'd be sad to see it go but I wouldn't blame you at all if you did delete it. I really hope you're finding people you're able to connect with in your new city!
Yikes! I’m so sorry people have been doing that! I wish I had some advice or words of wisdom but internet stranger creepiness knows no bounds or limits.
I don’t think that you’re providing too much detail. It’s vague enough they just saw you being open as an opportunity to be creeps which isn’t at all on you. I would absolutely caution against giving your number out though. You can get an unreal amount of information through your cell phone number. Plus they can straight up harass you until you change it. Get a google voice number and text through that (what’s app shows your number iirc).
I hope these incidents stop happening and until then be well and be safe
Omggg Girl I’m so happy you shared this! I do very intimate writing on the platform as well and I always hesitate to share my blog with certain ppl for this very reason. Don’t let rotten ppl spoil your light! You’re here sharing as you do for a reason. Just use these experiences as a learning one and an opportunity to come back after an attempted emotion setback, love you & your work❤️
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I love getting your newsletter, and don't think you're oversharing at all. Your openness keeps me coming back.
Ugh I’m so sorry. I’ve heard of other Substackers dealing with harassment when people openly share (I think Substack interviewed someone like this, I’ll see if I can find it), but off the top of my head the only “solutions” I can think of is making this Substack private and then you’d have to vet the subscribers attempting to come in manually.
You could also create a “section” in settings and remove it from your home page and send it JUST to subscribers but not have it show up on your visible homepage/feed. But again, you’d have to vet.
Hmm... going paid was what I heard from most people was the best option for them. The woman who runs the department of salad on here said “you have to pay if you want to insult me!”
But I know this runs deeper than that.
Again, I’m sorry...
Please don't delete it! :sob: Maybe make it so NO MENZ ALLOWED? Very sorry you have to go through this, though. I think if I did this kind of thing and could swing it, I'd consider having someone moderate the comments so I didn't have to even see any of the crazy stuff since it bothers my RSD so bad and I know that would make me personally feel like I needed to be nice to everyone and then get upset that they end up trying to be controlling. Being a neurokin is soooo hard on top of everything else. <<<sending magical good vibes>>>
Ugh, that's so creepy! I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I love your newsletter and I'd be sad to see it go but I wouldn't blame you at all if you did delete it. I really hope you're finding people you're able to connect with in your new city!