Want peace? Do these three hard things.
Your 'Baddie Transformation' Pt. 2!
Hi, Sad Girls!
As we continue on with our 2026 baddie transformation era, I wanted to share the three difficult yet necessary things I’ve done to grow from totally frustrated to peace-filled and hopeful.
1. Protect yourself like you’re your own best friend
The next time you find yourself feeling mistreated, ask yourself, “If I were my own bestie (which, you should be), would I let them be treated this way?”
If the answer is no, get up on out of there. Either through physical distance, emotional distance, or both.
It sucks because you will hurt people’s feelings. But…people will hurt your feelings, too. We all hurt feelings. It happens! Just set your boundaries and stand ten toes about yourself. You are the only person 100% looking out for yourself.
The more you practice saying “this is not okay with me,” the more confident you’ll feel.
2. Let things go!
Bad bishes don’t hold grudges. They just don’t. It’s proven that holding grudges can affect your mental and physical health. The better you feel, the more you’ll glow! And I found myself feeling lighter and freer the minute I decided to move forward and let go of past hurt.
On my birthday, I wrote about life lessons I learned last year, and one of them was to hand bullies their shame back.
The point of bullying is to shame you into hating yourself. They want you to feel small and isolated, so you don’t think you can survive without them, while also making your time in the environment miserable. If you leave, they’ll have nothing else to bond over. So just call it out, hand them their shame back, and remove yourself.
I still stand by that. Part of being your own baddie bestie is defending yourself. However, once you’ve done that? Remove yourself and releasssssseeee.
Learn the lesson you need for the future and try your best to move forward. That doesn’t mean whatever happened is okay, but it means you’re not letting it harm you more than it already has.
Note: Everything is nuanced, and sometimes you’re stuck and can’t move forward for one reason or another. Sometimes the harm is ongoing. In those cases, make a plan, ask for support, and be patient with yourself as you figure things out.
3. Read good books
I’m not sharing this just because I write books myself. But…if you want to read my books, I’d appreciate it, hehe. Anywho, we recently read A Magical Girl Retires in my book club, and it made me reflect on things like capitalism, climate change, and financial stress. Simply reading the book gave me a boost of confidence as well.
“Reading a book (particularly a novel) can not only help diminish negative emotions and encourage positive ones, therapists have found, but also heighten an individual’s self-worth and self-esteem.”
My goal this year is to read just as much as I did when I was younger. When I consumed stories like how I’d breathe air. I want to expand my mind (because baddies are forever learners), deepen my empathy, and cultivate my own creativity.
It’s not easy getting back into the habit, but the payoff is everything! This is the next book on my list.
What are the hard things you’ve done to feel like a bad bish? And stay tuned for more tips!
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