A comprehensive list of everything I hate.
And some things I love, too.
Hey there!
Long time, no post. I had to disappear for a second to get myself together and update Kickstarter backers. I appreciate everyone’s patience as I got back on life’s ever-bucking horse. Yes, I’m back on that saddle. Hat waving in the air. A look of pure terror on my face. But riding along all the same. And?? My writer’s block has been chipped away. We celebrate.
Now, onto the point.
I saw this post and I was inspired. I try very hard to transmute my negative feelings into positive encouragement for other people because we can’t all be sad, right? But I do want to make space for sharing things that I truly don’t like. Life feels infinitely more difficult when we’re not “allowed” to be negative. So here are all the things I hate. And if you have things you hate, please share. It’ll feel good to get it out, ha.
Loud chewing, slurping, and lip-smacking.
Being “gently led” to a decision instead of being asked/told straight up. It’s kind of insulting. And leads to misunderstandings and frustrations.
Passive aggression. This is like the evil twin of the previous point.
When you find shoes you love but they end up rubbing against your pinky toe in an uncomfortable way.
I hate that everything’s become one big capitalistic competition. And that every person online has been pressured to become a “brand”. Myself included.
Being contacted by people you don’t know like that purely for “tea”.
Genuine misunderstandings that can’t be fixed, because mean words can’t be unsaid.
When my eyeliner is uneven.
Anime that takes like 20 episodes to get good. My attention span has shrunk.
My propensity to isolate and go ghost when overwhelmed—and I’m often overwhelmed.
Public speaking.
Burner accounts to keep tabs. Because…why? It can’t feel good to anonymously stalk people, throw stones, and retreat into a cave. It’s especially strange (and honestly sad) to do this to people you know.
People who point out the flaws in others but never themselves. I know where I fall short. I talk about it all the time. I don’t trust people who can’t see their own shortcomings.
Social hierarchies.
Feeling uncomfortable in my own skin.
Corporate speak.
Things that are bubblegum flavored.
Evil, inhumane people who hurt others.
The 48 Laws of Power. If you like this book I will assume you are a psychopath. I read about a fourth of it recently and I was appalled.
Being put in a box.
Some people in my life thinking everything I post is about them. I meet a lot of people. I’ve done a lot of things in my life. I also observe others. Most of the time those who think I’m writing about them are WRONG.
Now, your turn!
So, I know this post is meant to normalize negativity but I guess I can’t help but be balanced. Here are some things I’ve been loving recently!
Problemista! What a surreal ride. Please watch if you love trippy strange movies like I do.
Landscape With Invisible Hand. Another surreal movie. Not as good as Problemista but still a fun and interesting watch. And it’s about aliens, so…fitting for the times.
Pinterest! Pinning outfits has been very therapeutic.
The kindness of strangers.
Overcoming my writer’s block! I’ve been writing like crazy! And it’s allowed me to finally overcome my fears and release my work into the world. First, I Live to Serve the Witch [currently going through a final edit] and then How to Escape Death. These are my priorities.
My 2024 recap! I hopped overseas, visited 3 different countries and no longer reside in the US.
Anyone who reads this newsletter!
Weird people. Awkward people. Those who are a little sad and nervous. Who overshare and say too much. You have my heart.
God!!! My faith has grown in the last year. I will never stop singing the praises of God, forreal.
Anyway, 2024 was weird af. Hard. Sad. Burdensome. And 2025 will be chaotic, free, and wild. I have goals. But I’m keeping them close to the chest. Can’t be too predictable, can I? 😉
Happy New Year everyone. Wishing you all the success and happiness and healing in the world.
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Read my surreal novel: How to Be a Better Adult
Read my nerdy self-help book!: The Magical Girl’s Guide to Life
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Not too much i hate, but, #1 for sure still is dishonesty, especially pointless dishonesty. #2 poor communication, if somethings a miss, say so, we are adults, disagreements and finding resolutions are part of adults. #3 missing breakfast
Things I love are too numerous #1 brown/black women absolutely #2 brown/black women lol I'm joking but im serious tho #3 breakfast, the most important meal, next to brown/black women, im sorry #4 refrigerated water #5 music, music is life #6 growing old with my sisters but seeing that we all still hold true to our initial characters from youth.
Oof, there’s a bunch of things I hate:
1. People who call others “vibe killers” just because they don’t like to ignore how they feel and not wanting to hide behind a mask to protect others feelings (because honestly, that “vibe killer” has been doing it their WHOLE life and is tired of hiding hiding behind their mask. It only hurts them)
2. Fakeness/ Lack of Authenticity. I think we live in a society that has truly become afraid to be ourselves. And it makes me sad
3. Capitalism. I know it’s important… but it’s become too much. Overconsumption has taken over. 2025, I plan to show gratitude for the things that I have and not shop for anything new unless it’s necessary.
4. MOUTH SMACKERS!
5. When people breathe into phone obnoxiously loud
6. When people can only point out the negative things in everything everyone does, ripping people to shreds for no reason.
7. Hypocrisy. In myself too.
8. When people lack accountability. It irks my soul.
9. Bullies. *expletive* BULLIES! I cannot…
I can go on and on about things I hate. But I’ll share some things I love too:
1. Authenticity
2. Art, the creation of things, how a thing doesn’t exist in one moment, is able to exist in the next.
3. Anime, manga, and video games. These some of the things that keep me inspired to create
4. The fact that I started finally writing down one of the manga ideas that has been living in my head rent free and may start to execute on it.
5. Those who are following their dreams. Despite any fear or doubt. It’s so courageous and I’m trying to be like y’all when I grow up. 🤣🫶🏾💙
6. The loners, the misfits, the eccentrics of the world. We may not believe it, but we bring color to this cold colorless world.
7. The overwhelmed, overstimulated, and exhausted. I give my energy that I have to you all… because I am also overwhelmed, overstimulated, and exhausted. We’re all in it together.
8. The depressed, repressed, and anxious. I wish I had the reach to give all of my love to you all. Because you all deserve love and to do what makes you happy and pursue what makes you happy. Signed fellow depressed, repressed, anxious people.
9. The oversharers, the ramblers, the awkward. You all also have my heart, because despite it all, you have the courage to say what’s on your mind, and you help me keep going in life knowing I’m not alone. 💙
I say as I’m rambling 🤣 but all love to all of you 🫶🏾💙
Also Jacque, I LOVE your outfit in that photo!!
And I’m proud of you and thank you for showing me that there are fellow magical girl loving sadgurls in the world 💙