How to be cocky when you're depressed AF.
It's not about faking it, it's about reframing your thoughts
Before we dive into today’s topic, I wanted to share an update with you! I’ve rebranded this newsletter because what was supposed to be a regular newsletter with some thoughts and book updates has turned into a public(ish) diary where I share my thoughts as a sadgurl. Nothing’s changing content-wise, but I think the branding better aligns with the content I’ve been writing about.
A few days ago, I was feeling a bit down. Ok, that’s a lie. It wasn’t “a bit”. My depression monster socked me right between the eyes. But as I stumbled backward, spiraling down into my well-worn pits of sorrow, I was struck with a sudden thought.
If I’m always going to be sad, and if the world will always confuse and disappoint me…I might as well think what I want. So, I’m choosing to focus on the positives, even while the negatives pummel me.
I posted my thoughts online, as I tend to do, and many people seemed to have connected with them. Someone asked me how they can also embrace their cockiness while depressed, and I’m here to give you some pointers.
Choose Delusion
I’ve said this dozens of times now, but life is strange. It always has been, and it always will be. So in those moments when you’re feeling anchored by the weight of the world, try to shift your thoughts. If the world calls you a failure, shout back, “Actually, I’m pretty resilient!” If the world calls you strange, say, “I’m actually unique, and I think that’s cool.” If you’re feeling lonely and isolated, tell yourself, “This is a chance to get more intimately acquainted with myself. Which is awesome because I’m amazing.”
Even if you don’t necessarily believe these things, think them anyway. Say them out loud. Write them down. It’s been proven that negative thoughts and emotions can affect your health, and those who practice gratitude live more joyfully. So, let’s be delusional together. Over time, it’ll transform into joy!
Talk to Your Friends & Family
No one gasses me up more than my mom. To her, I’m infallible. In her eyes, my mind is a perfect sphere of perfection. My outfits are always a ten. She does say I lack tact, and I think we all know this by now 😆 but, to her, that’s my only flaw. When I need a boost, I’ll give my mom a call so she can remind me that I’m “that b*tch”, at least in her world. And that means everything to me.
My mom isn’t the only one, either. My friends will pick me off the floor, dust me off, and remind me that, to them, I’m amazing. And who cares if people at work, or at social events, etc think I’m weird? In my personal world, I’m loved. And that’s what matters most. That outside noise is just, I don’t know, character development or something.
Watch/Read More Content
This is probably strange advice, but watching or reading content where the main character reminds me of me helps me so much! Seeing a crybaby defeat a great evil gives me hope. Reading as a socially awkward girl overcomes her anxieties to stand up for herself makes me feel like it’s possible for me, too. I tend to live in the stories I consume. So they empower me as I navigate my own story.
On a very serious note, I know it’s hard. If you’re anything like me, you feel your emotions very intensely. People can tell you’re uncomfortable in your own skin. You might sometimes want to leave Earth. But people need you here. And if you’re going to be here, might as well be the baddest b*tch you can be! 😜
Anywho, I’ve been watching Chainsaw Man, and I’ll probably send out a newsletter about Denji and his quest for a good, simple life amidst all the chaos of his world. Look out for that!
Updates & Things
I was interviewed by the lovely ladies of When the Magic Happens podcast!
How to Be a Better Adult is part of Literally Black’s May Indie Book Box!
I reached my goal of 100 Goodreads ratings! ✨ Gonna get some fast food to celebrate LOL
And we’re down to the final FIVE hardcover preorder slots!
After this, I am not printing or sending anymore. I will be taking pre-orders for Book 2 soon, though!
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Jacque! Love the advice, especially the delusion! I remember in my darkest times (most times) I'd think to myself "if I'm leaving, I may as well do whatever I want!"
Nothing bad, but like... Why NOT try pursuing w h a t e v e r ? ?
I missed out on book 1 (I came too late; it's sold out--congrats!!), but will we be able to follow along fine without it in book two? 👀